Veterans Day was celebrated this week, and I thought this was a fabulous time to share this beautiful engagement shoot by Virginia Ruth Photography. (Make sure you click that link to check out more of Ginny’s beautiful work!) <3
Thank you Aleric for your service, and Paige for your sacrifices as well on behalf of our family here in Laramie. <3
By Sabrina Spears, Wedding/Events
Planner & Designer
Sabrina Spears Events –
Ever attended a wedding and were completely bored out of your mind (not to mention the food was horrible?!) I’m certain the thought, “When are they going to cut the cake so we can leave?!” crossed your mind. The reality is the blissful newlyweds probably didn’t share the same sentiment as you did — they had an amazing time!
experience a bride & groom have during their wedding is very different from
their guests. I often remind my couples that while the marriage and ceremony
is all about them, the reception should be designed with the guest’s
experience in mind.
are a few ways you can transform your wedding reception into an experience….
the first thing that catches the eyes of your guests as they enter the room: is it the welcome sign, seating chart or the
lush floral designs, menu cards, cloth napkins on each table? Every bride wants
their guests to say that her wedding was the most beautiful one they have ever
been to. Having a well-decorated reception space will make your guest feel
valued. There is one area that is often forgotten: the bathrooms. Adding a small vase of flowers
and an air freshener can easily transform that space — but you don’t have to
stop there! Add a care basket filled with some essentials like mouthwash and floss
(especially if you plan and serving brisket!), hand lotion, etc. Your guests
will feel special!
have seen couples skimp on the quality food for their reception because it’s just
not a priority for them. Well, I’m here shouting from the mountain top that it isand should be.
isn’t the time for the “I found someone cheaper” move. You don’t want your
guests leaving your wedding early because the only thing on their minds is,
“How do we get to the nearest fast food joint?!” Good food makes people happy.
Great food makes people dance. Consider including a late night s’mores bar or
nacho bar in your catering, especially if you plan on partying all night long.
All that fun can leave you and your guests craving a late night snack. And — let’s
not forget about cake! Include a gluten free option for guests with dietary
restrictions; this gesture will be greatly appreciated.
you opt for a DJ, band or the audio hookup at your space, music is an easy way
to get your guests out of their seats. Schedule all your special dances, like
first dance, mother/son, during dinner service. This will keep your guests
entertained while they eat.
the toasts and speeches to a minimum. Your second cousin Bill’s son doesn’t
need to make a speech, neither does every person in the wedding party. Remember
it’s not open mic night.
wedding is probably the biggest party you will ever throw. When I think party, I
think fun. Instead of party favors, give your guests the memories of a great
time. Make your event interactive! Two words: Corn. Hole. Although I haven’t
mastered the art of the game, that hasn’t stopped me from loving it. The inclusion
of games at wedding receptions has taken on a life of its own over the years.
other fun ideas to make your reception interactive include hiring a caricature
artist, a slow motion photo booth, poker station and — my absolute favorite —
an adult bounce house.
The Cliff Notes …
Imagine that you’re a guest at your own wedding and it’s the wedding day: now take a walk in your guests’ shoes!
Laramie’s Alibi Wood Fire Pizzaria & Bakery has been open & cranking out delicious food & live music events while undergoing an impressive renovation this year. Laramigoes have been heading to “the Alibi” for years for food, libation & frivolity — and we were thrilled to feature their catering in our Cheyenne & Laramie bridal expos in 2019! If you’ve got an event coming up, wedding or otherwise, give them a buzz at 307.745.9738, find them on Facebook, or visit their website. OR! Even better yet, when you’re in Laramie go grab a bite for yourself and see what the buzz is about — head to 404 S. 4th Street and save us a slice …
p.s. Congrats to the Alibi on being a 2019 local’s choice winner from The Laramie Boomerang!
you ready for what happens after the rings and reception? As you look forward
to a lifelong commitment, it’s easy to feel a mixture of excitement and nerves.
You have probably heard the odds about divorce and you’ve probably heard
that relationships take work. Love isn’t always enough to sustain a marriage.
do people do in healthy, long-lasting relationships? To answer that, I
have to share the knowledge and wisdom of my go-to guru on healthy
relationships & marriage. Dr. John Gottman is a therapist and researcher
who has studied couple relationships for decades. This man can actually predict
divorce. He doesn’t have a crystal ball; he has identified the
destructive habits that cause marital demise. Most importantly, he figured out
the key habits people engage in on a regular basis to do work in their
relationship. These habits are effective–we have decades of research to prove
it. The great thing is these habits are things you can do right now, on a daily
basis, to help your relationship thrive over the years.
what’s the secret? Put simply, couples in happy long-lasting relationships are
best friends and treat each other accordingly. That foundation of friendship
means that partners know about each other’s current lives. Here’s the key with this
one: the person you marry will change. Perhaps in small ways, but maybe in
major ways. For instance, if you become parents together, that role will change
your worlds in big ways. It’s important to keep yourself updated on your
partner’s life of which you share a large part. Dr. Gottman calls this concept
“Love Maps.” He stresses the importance of knowing your partner’s inner world
by having regular conversations about their life. What is their favorite way to
spend their time? What is their biggest fear? What personal improvements are
they trying to make? What’s going on with their friendships? Answers to these
questions give you a mental picture of your partner’s world. We’ve all probably
heard a person regretfully say, “we just grew apart,” or, “I just don’t know
who they are anymore, they’re not the person I married.” Keeping up-to-date on
your “Love Map” is just one way to prevent that from happening and keep a
strong foundation of friendship.
friends listen to one another and deal with conflict in a generally respectful
way. Part of listening to one another involves including your partner in big
decisions. Dr. Gottman found that partners (men especially) who accept
influence from their partner have greater satisfaction in their relationships. Accepting
influence means including your partner in major decisions, valuing their
opinion, and listening to their ideas. Want to buy a new car? Thinking about
applying for a new job in another town? Talk about the decision with your
on to that sticky subject of conflict — in any discussion about healthy
relationships, it’s bound to get some attention. Did you know that happy
couples fight as much as unhappy couples? Yes, you read that right. Research
shows that it’s not how much you fight, it’s how you fight that
counts. Contempt, criticism, and
explosive anger will all eat away at that
foundation of friendship. Unfortunately, our biology works against us when we
face conflict. When you become angry or emotionally aroused, your brain is
actually flooded with chemicals that render you useless in solving problems and
seeing your partner’s point of view. It’s easier said than done, but the best
thing to do when you’re emotional or angry is to take a break and come back to
the conversation when you are both calm and have a clear mind.
long-lasting couples don’t just deal with conflict when it arises, they do so
much more to express appreciation and affection. John Gottman found that
stable, happy couples had a ratio of five positive interactions to
every one negative interaction. That is, these couples still argue, say snarky
things, or snap at one another. But, they also share inside jokes, hug, laugh,
listen, and compliment each other more than they fight. It’s like filling up
your love bank account with positive experiences so that when you take a
withdrawal, you’ll be okay.
many things in life, you get out of marriage what you put into it. The hard
work that goes into a lasting marriage pays off. Satisfied couples are happier,
mentally and physically better off, and (especially men) are likely to live
longer. Happy couples also make better parents. Notice that the key word in
those statements is happy. Unhappy couples don’t fare so well. It’s not
simply being married that is beneficial–it’s being in a satisfied, emotionally
connected relationship. So, as you look forward to a lifetime together, keep in
mind these habits for a healthy, happy relationship.
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman
For new parents: “And Baby Makes Three” by John Gottman
About Alyssa McElwain …
Alyssa McElwain, PhD, CFLE is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Family & Consumer Sciences at the University of Wyoming. Dr. McElwain received her M.S. in Marriage & Family Therapy from Purdue University in 2008, and her Ph.D in Human Development & Family Studies from Auburn University in 2015. Her approach to teaching her classes at UW includes active student participation & discussion, including role playing activities and critical case analyses. “Step into one of my classes and you will clearly see that teaching is my passion,” Dr. McElwain writes. “I strive to provide an engaging educational environment where students actively participate in their learning. My belief is that learning can and should be fun. I also believe the best learning occurs when people work hard and practice using the information they are learning.” To learn more about Dr. McElwain’s professional & personal pursuits, visit her website,https://alyssamcelwain.weebly.com/
Congrats to Rachel & Dyllon on their beautiful Casper wedding that was held June 10, 2018. Thank you to Ardent Photography’s Rick & Stephanie for sharing this wedding full of special details … I’m in love with that backdrop to their ceremony, the musical tie and the bouquet …
You have a love story. You found the love of your life, the person you want to spend a lifetime with. And now you are planning a wedding! You get one day to celebrate the love you and your fiance share, and it has to be amazing!
are a million questions to ask and just as many decisions that have to be made
to make one day the perfect day.
Where do you even start? How do
you know which vendors to trust? How can
you find exactly what you want? The list
goes on and on. That is where LUXE comes
need a planning company that fully understands your story and can create an
event that is completely personalized to your lives; who you are as individuals
and couples. You deserve a company that makes every effort to create an event
experience that embraces what you both enjoy and wish to share with your
At LUXE, we do all of this and more. We become true friends with our clients and we fall in love with our clients’ love stories. We become emotionally invested in not only our client’s event but also our clients’ lives. Our clients aren’t just people we plan events for; they are people we care about. It is that relationship that paves the way for truly wonderful, personalized events that are a mirror of our clients as people and their hopes for the future.
Thank you to Deanna & Nicholas and their photographer, Macy Carter of Macy Carter Photography (website at macycarterphotography.com and IG handle @wanderingambition) — for sharing this beautiful day with us! Deanna and Nicholas were married May 4, 2018 at Schwabacher’s Landing in Grand Teton National Park near Jackson. “We were going to get married at Mormon Barn, but Schwabacher’s Landing was a last minute change, and totally worth it,” Deanna says. “The first time I went to Grand Teton National Park was with my family in 2013 and I immediately fell in love with it. I was determined to get Nicholas there and for him to enjoy it as much as I did!”
I’ll let Deanna tell you about the adventure that was their big day …
“In 2016 we graduated college with our bachelor’s degrees and decided to treat ourselves. So as a graduation gift we designed a national park oriented road trip.
We drove for three months, over 15,000 miles and visited 23 National Parks and hiked over 67 miles. Wyoming was our number one most memorable state. The landscape, wildlife, and untamed magic in the air made us want to go back. So on June 6th, 2017 Nicholas proposed to me in Havana, Cuba and my first vision for the wedding was with the Teton mountains behind us.
Starting on April 19, 2018 we drove from FL to WY in our tiny 2017 Chevy Cruze with my brother in the back seat and everything needed for us to relive our last journey. On May 4th we were joined by my mom, dad, brother, uncle, aunt and cousin. The officiant was a childhood friend of my mother’s and his wife came too. The photographer, Macy, and her now fiance, were there as well.”
Deanna and Nicholas were married at 5 pm, just before the sun set. Deanna steals my heart as a DIY bride, making all of their boutonnieres, bouquets and invitations. The couple also added a special, unique touch to their unity ceremony. “Our unity ceremony was our vows in a wooden box that contains a bottle of wine which we will drink on our one year and reread our vows and then replace the wine,” Deanna explains. “The box has our name and the date of our wedding engraved in it.” (LOVE! And have I said yet how much I LOVE Deanna’s dress?!)
The couple resides in Seattle now, and we wish them the very best for a life full of love and continued adventure… Thanks to Deanna, Nicholas and Macy for sharing these beautiful images with us!
Perhaps it’s because Ceira (the bride) was one of our former dance teachers at our Laramie Dance & Arts Center that we also own … perhaps it’s the historical flare she and Bryce chose when they selected their engagement shoot venue to be the Pioneer Museum in Lander … perhaps it’s the emotion Virginia Ruth captured in this beautiful shoot … or yeah, maybe it’s just all of that. Whatever it is, I LOVE these images … I can’t wait to see their wedding pics!!
Congrats to these two lovebirds, and thanks to Ginny of Virginia Ruth Photography for sharing!